Fw: MAW Chaplain's Billet

----- Original Message -----
From: Baik LT Johan
To: Woodard LT Gregory S
Sent: Mon Sep 26 09:52:56 2011
Subject: RE: MAW Chaplain's Billet

I think you meant MWSS 373. Anyways, I enjoyed my time with them. I was able to establish very close personal relationships with all the company commanders (although they have all changed now except HQ Company). The new CO is a devout Christian (non-denominational but grew up Presbyterian). He is serious about his faith and was bummed to hear I was leaving and concerned that the Jewish chaps was coming. I spent extra time ensuring him that the Rabbi has the same responsibility to care for all as I did. Anyways, I agree with your previous email about not surprising Neal with your knowledge of his desire not to extend. I would simply say you are interested in his billet and ask if there is a deployment soon. That way, he might suggest you come earlier. Put the ball back in his court, so to speak. Anyways, I'll be glad to help and even speak with Father Foley and Rabbi Elson if that helps. We just lost a billet in 3d MAW (Chris Earley) and not getting a replacement so they may entertain some overlap if the detailer would entertain it. That is, of course, way above my paygrade.

Johan

-----Original Message-----
From: Woodard LT Gregory S
Sent: Friday, September 23, 2011 14:17
To: Baik LT Johan
Subject: RE: MAW Chaplain's Billet

How is the command with MWSS 273?

Greg

-----Original Message-----
From: Baik LT Johan
Sent: Friday, September 23, 2011 7:46 AM
To: Woodard LT Gregory S
Subject: RE: MAW Chaplain's Billet

Greg,
It was good to see you again yesterday. We arrived safely around 1830 last night.

Rabbi Neil Kreisler just relieved me at MWSS-373. The unit is scheduled to deploy again in Aug/Sep of 2012 to AFG. Rabbi Elson is trying to get him to extend so that he can make the full deployment but he doesn't want to. Right now, we really don't have a chaplain to take his place unless I go back to them (which is unlikely...but then again, anything is possible). I would recommend that you talk to Neil directly so he might even suggest that you come early enough to relieve him and deploy with the unit. By the way, MWSS-373 is out there now at WTI. Neil was sitting next to me yesterday. He may be out there starting next week. I would just get with him, and even spend time with 373 in the event you are given that billet. (But of course, you didn't get this info from me...)

In terms of schooling, I live up in Temecula, closer to Camp Pendleton. In San Diego, Poway is considered one of the top in California.

Even without MWSS 373, your chances of deploying with 3d MAW is significantly better than 2d MAW, I believe. But be sure to come to Miramar; not, Pendleton, 29 Palms, or Yuma. Your chances of deploying from Miramar is significantly better. MWSS-374 in 29 Palms (Ch. Melanie Miller), and Chaplain Bradshaw's first tour, is not deploying any time soon. They are the sole MWSS support for EMV so they are grounded until further notice.

Anyways, I hope that helps. If you have other questions, please don't hesitate to ask. I worked with 2d MAW leadership in AFG for about a month before coming back. They are a good bunch of people but they are even more scattered in the east coast than we are. So the unit cohesion seemed to be a bit less than us here in the West Coast. But then again, I may be biased.

v/r
Johan

-----Original Message-----
From: Woodard LT Gregory S
Sent: Thursday, September 22, 2011 15:44
To: Baik LT Johan
Subject: MAW Chaplain's Billet

Johan,

Good to see you again this morning. Hope you had a safe trip back to Miramar.

I am due to rotate out of Yuma in November of 2012.
Ch Kreisler is due to rotate out of Miramar in December of 2012 and there is also a 2nd MAW billet in Cherry Point coming open.

My key needs for next billet are operational and I'd like to get a deployment under my belt. What are my chances of deploying out of either 3 MAW or 2 MAW?

What do you think of Miramar? How are the schools around there?

G & P,
Greg

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Hard Times

Marines have a motto: “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Or maybe you’ve heard the slogan, “when life hands you lemons, make lemonade.” These slogans sound good. We should face our struggles with faith and just get on with our lives, right?

The very real truth is that life’s trials hurt, and it is not often easy to “just get on with things.” The human experience is full of hardships: sickness and accidents; disappointments, strained and broken relationships. Difficulties in life will come and we must not allow them to keep us down.

A clear understanding of the value of these hardships will make it possible makes it possible to have a positive attitude in the face of struggle. Here are some points for you to consider as you face the troubles that you are either dealing with now or are sure to face in the future: 1) Adversity can both mature us and can bring out the best in us; 2) Suffering and distress can produce perseverance and endurance.

Perseverance is not a passive acceptance of circumstances. Perseverance instead refers to the ability to display steadfastness and constancy in the face of the most formidable difficulty. It is a courageous resolve in the face of suffering. It is continuing on even when times are tough, no matter the circumstances. Hard times can have a purifying quality; they are the arena in which, and the process through which, a tribulation transforms into a blessing.

But to truly learn and grow, we must persevere. Too often, we want to get our difficulties over with quickly. There are times when the best course is to bear up patiently instead of grumbling and complaining. We need to simply endure, and to continue doing well, understanding that perhaps the trial is meant to refine something in our life.

A journalist once wrote, “When nothing seems to help, I go to look at a stonecutter, hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times, without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet after the one hundred and first blow, it will split in two; and I know that it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before.” Letting patience do its perfect work is not easy. If we wish to run the race of life well we need to develop patience. That patience, in turn, will come only through a form of “resistance training,” that consists of doing well in enduring the misfortunes of life.

Our goal should be to turn trials into triumph. Remember that patient endurance of adversity can accomplish much good and spirituality can be a powerful tool in developing the wisdom to help us gain a proper perspective toward our hardships.

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Pornography In the Marriage: Where to draw the line?

I wrote this article for the Marine Corps Air Station, Yuma Desert Warrior (the station newspaper):

In the June 30^th edition of this paper, the Tell Us Your Opinion question was “Pornography in the marriage: Where to draw the line?” This is a topic of discussion that we bring up in our PREP marriage classes and is, I believe, a topic of vital importance to the health of Marine Corps marriages. In responding to issues, it is common to give the BLUF (Bottom Line Up Front). BLUF: “Pornography has no place in marriages and is destructive in marital relationships.” Bear with me as I unpack the BLUF (from a male perspective).

Romance, love and sexual pleasure are God’s good gift to us. Lust is the opposite of the purity of romance, love and sex as originally intended. Lust can be defined as deformed sexual desire and as an excessive desire for one’s own sexual pleasure. Lust is self-centered and is focused on one’s own self-gratification. Lust has been rehabilitated in our culture. There is a prevalent belief that the only damaging thing about lust is suppressing it. Society has divorced sex from morality and sees it as just a physical need to satisfy and as long as it is consensual, it is just harmless fun.

Entire books have been written on the topics under discussion in this article, space only allows me to provide a brief summary. Within the marital bond, sex is good, lust, not so much. Pornography creates a warped perception of people, relationships and sex. Pornography teaches unrealistic and inappropriate sexual experiences, it decreases satisfaction with monogamy and lowers family loyalties, it objectifies and degrades women, it encourages promiscuity, and it increases susceptibility to sexually acting out in ways harmful to others. Additionally pornography objectifies men and women, portraying them as sex objects whose worth lies in the size and shape of their body parts. It should be noted that men tend to be very visual, and when they look at a nude woman, they spend more time looking at her body and less time looking at her face – the focus is on her body parts – she is an object to be viewed and consumed.

Pornography leads men to have unhealthy views of women. Women are not valued for who they are as people, they are seen as objects meant to satisfy our desires. The best book that I have read on the issue of pornography is Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by William M. Struthers. In the book, he writes on neural pathways. Like a path is created in the woods with each successive hiker, so do the neural paths become wider as they are repeatedly traveled with each exposure to pornography. They become the automatic pathway through which interactions with women are routed. All women become potential porn stars in their minds. They unknowingly have created a neurological circuit that imprisons their ability to see women rightly – as images created with value as people, not as objects to be used.

Finally I remind the reader of the emotional connection that is supposed to exist only between husband and wife. When we give ourselves over to pornography, we create an emotional connection with an object of illicit desire. We rob our spouse of the oneness that is essential in keeping the relationship mutually fulfilling.

BLUF: “Pornography has no place in marriages and is destructive in marital relationships.”

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